Dealing with emotional abuse is battle of the mind. And if one can’t fight it then it destabilizes the victim and the victims children as well. Its insidious and it must be cut off at the source with appropriate responses. A critical response to emotional abuse is to disconnect oneself from what is being thrown at you.
Most emotional abusers count on victims accepting what is being said, without using their own reason and logic. If a victim can delink herself emotionally from the abuse hurled, and the abuser, she will be able to handle him better. The day she starts showing spine, the abuser will start responding differently.
An idealistic situation is to exit. But many women don’t or can’t due to many reasons known to them. So response management becomes crucial in tackling this. To get trapped in why me and why he is doing it, is a waste of time. Most abusers don’t feel that they are doing anything wrong and that their actions are not abusive. Say a slap to the victim is for her own good.
The only focus for victims is to protect their sanity. Not fix the abuser. And if there are children then it becomes more critical that the abuse is managed or cut as quickly as possible before the kids start realizing that something wrong is happening. Always remember words can kill, without leaving any evidence.