Eksaath donated 3 PCs to a low income school in Mumbai. The school has some 835 children, with 50% girls. The PCs will be used in the school lab. Thanks to our donors, Dr R.W and Mrs Dr P.R.W (They wish to remain anonymous). Dr R.W got these PCs fixed and made it fully functional. And then bought new keyboards to go with each PC. Eksaath cannot him thank enough. If you wish to donate, please contact us.
If your parents have been mean to you (abusive) in any way when you were a kid, you will self destruct in adult hood. That is the way the cookie always crumbles.
Acknowledge the pain that you feel. Talk about it with your parents. Say – “You did this to me and it made me feel like crap”. If your parents acknowledge the wrong that they did to you, great. That’s the first step towards fixing your fucked up life. If they don’t. Acknowledge it to yourself. That what happened in your childhood did happen. And is still happening to you. And all your behaviour as adult is in response to perhaps what happened to you as a child.
There is a deep connection between the abuse that happens in ones childhood and the abuse one does to others or to oneself as an adult. The only way is to not rationalise it. To accept it as causation. Sometimes the effects of what one goes through as a kid, starts showing up decades later. Just like that.
To understand what one does now, one has to understand what happened to one, then. The past can be a great teacher. Don’t shove it under the carpet. Don’t hide from it. Acknowledge it. And perhaps then it will start letting you go and free you.
An Indian CEO was accused of abusing his wife for 10 years. And people re surprised. How can he do this?. Its not possible, its unbelievable etc.
Domestic violence is not carried out only by men in slums, or men drunk, or men unemployed, or this kind of a man or that kind of a man. A rich man is as capable of beating the crap out of his wife as a poor man is. And a woman with money and education and a great job, can also be in a domestic violence situation and choose to live with her violent husband.
Men and women in home wrecks don’t come with horns of their head. Majority lead double, triple lives with multiple personalities. Many abusive people are extremely nice, well respected and admired in society. And at home they are extremely abusive with their families.
The lady who got abused by the CEO/abuser will have nightmares for next decade and even more unless he seeks therapy. It will be an uphill battle for her to come to terms with one of the most crucial self esteem breakers – how could i let him do this to me! This is one question that torments women more than anything and it becomes worse when you ask this question and you continue to take the violence.
For women who live in abusive situation, the most difficult step is to take that first step towards separation. To say enough. Its quite possible to be in love with your abuser and continue to love him or her. Who we fall in love with, we cannot help. But we can choose how we allow them to treat us.
Not all scary looking people are scary. Who are they. These rugged intimidating folks are bikers and belong to the organisation, Bikers Against Child Abuse (B.A.C.A.). The group protects children in abusive situations.
For children/women of abuse people like the ones in the picture are a godsend. For the victim, sometimes a little courage and support from someone on the outside, stops the process of abuse.
Most of the time, outsiders, neighbours, relatives etc think – its a personal matter, why interfere ? THIS thinking is what needs to be rethought. Its not a personal matter when some man or woman beats or tortures his or her family members. You supporting or standing up for the victim may not, at that point, do any good. But sometimes this in itself can trigger a self preservation mode in the victim and the victim gets divine courage to fight back.
So if you are in the vicinity of someone getting slapped around, don’t walk away, don’t close your door, don’t say its not your problem. Even the slightest of support can save someone’s life. (Picture Source : bacaworld.org)
Eksaath Foundation raised Rs 14,000 to buy sports wear for school girls who play sports. We closed this initiative in March 2017. The girls come from low income background and for them playing sports is something pretty amazing. This was possible due to our wonderful donors – MV Priyank, Parvin Kaur Latamba and Kevin Dasilva. The need was to enable the girls to wear something formal when they went to compete. And they can do this because of our three donors. Thank you so much. And thanks to the principle Veena ji for putting this all together.
If you wish to support our initiative to empower girls, please contact us.
A session on dealing with violence, with third year students of management. It was a 2.5 hr program on managing violence and how to respond to it, should it enter the girls life. Most girls have this preconceived notion of what violence looks like.
It’s there in text book and papers etc but to actually put it in words as to how it looks and feels is a whole different ball game. Not a very easy place to go to.
The only way we can save our girls, our women is when you free them from being victims. Free them from feeling shame. Violence is the most insidious thing and it takes even the greatest and most accomplished woman, easily down. #EksaathFoundation
If you wish to hold a program at your school or college or company, please contact us.
We donated clothing for young women between 15-19 years at an all girls Orphanage. Thank you to our donor Mrs Hanita Ravindra Shenoy.
Eksaath is working on more such ideas that can support girls at school. And trying to raise more clothing and other consumables. If you have any ideas or wish to donate, please contact us.