If someone wants to be in your life, they will make the effort to be in it. One classical trait of abused victims is that they don’t understand the idea of giving up. They keep trying and trying and trying to please and give their best to people. And sometimes their time and energy is spent on the wrong people.
If you are a victim or have been a victim of violence, watch out for times when you are doing too much for someone or something. Basically going beyond what is considered normal and put a break on it. Do so without thinking.
If you worry, that the other person will think badly of you, he or she won’t. Because that’s how normal people behave. They don’t go overboard in doing things for everyone.
So keep a watch on your behaviour, take feedback from those who you trust and keep re-aligning how you interactive with the outside world.