10 year old girl supports Eksaath Foundation

Few weeks back I received a message from an old friend Kalpana V, that her 10 year old daughter, had heard about the work my foundation, Eksaath, is doing work with girls in sports. And she wanted to support Eksaath. This was one of most inspiring things I have experienced in my life. That a 10 year old could think of helping other little girls. She is in the Girl Scouts in US and with the support of other members in her team, she raised Rs 20,000. Plus clothing for children as well. The discussion with the young girl and her mother, happened over few weeks from July to August 2017.

As parents the best thing we can do for this world is to raise caring children. I met the young girl, in August and had an opportunity to interact with her. And she is an absolutely delightful human being. I am sure she will do more wonderful things in the future.

Eksaath Foundation thanks her for this initiative and God bless her with joy and success in everything that she does. Ps: Name of the child has been not mentioned to protect privacy, as requested by the mother.


Mothers in domestic violence ignore health of children

In an Eye Camp conducted by Eksaath Foundation, 6 children were diagnosed with dry optic nerve. Parents were advised to seek medical attention. Parents of two boys got their sons treated immediately.

Follow ups were done with other parents by the school principal and Eksaath. However, parents of 3 girls did not seek any medical advise. After repeated follow ups, we met the mothers of two girls.

We found that these two ladies (on the right) were victims of domestic violence. The reason why they would not take their daughters to even do preliminary examination, is because they could not do so. They both had told their husbands to take the girls for a check up and both husbands said they were too busy to do so.

Eksaath asked them if the husband raised his hands on them? Yes. The mothers understood the repercussion of not taking seeking medical help for their daughters and the damage that could happen to the eyes. Yet, fear of violence from the husband, stopped them from taking any steps.

For women in violence, the only goal is the survival of self. If they can get through that, it’s a very big thing. Kids grow up just like that. Education, health is on the back burner. For girls in poor families, it becomes more difficult when men flutter around like vultures. And if the girl has vision loss? Remains uneducated? One can only imagine what can happen. Or one dare not imagine what could happen!!!


An Engg professional is beaten with chappals by mother in law

A professionally qualified woman, working in a IT company. A love marriage and within 3-4 months, the abuse from mother in law started including curses and beating with chappals.

She was married for 5 years and her husband said nothing. But got angry with her too, once in a while. But was nice, according to her. Few weeks back, the beating happened again. She called him and told him she was leaving. And she came to  her parents house. The parents are supportive of her.

She has a small son and her concern was her husband did not reach out to her when she was with her parents. If you left without my permission, you will have to come back on your own, her husband told her. What should she do, as she was confused?

She shared details about her marriage and finally mentioned that she wanted to maintain her marriage. It followed that if she wanted to do so, then she must be prepared to deal with her mother in law.

As we spoke, she realised how things were impacting not just her and her relationship with her husband. The situation was affecting her son too.

The goal of the call was to just help her gain clarity on her decision which would be hers and hers alone. Whatever decision she took, she needed to keep her and her son’s safety at the top of the priority list and do what’s necessary to ensure that.

I got a call from someone who introduced her to Eksaath. The lady went back to her husband but she got her family involved, and cops too. And made sure her mother in law understood the repercussions of her behaviour. Hopefully her inlaws will change their behavior permanently.

Women have to understand if they want to see the change, they have to change the way they respond to violence. Not be defensive about it or ashamed. But deal with it head on.


Donated Desktop PC for a school Lab

School Principal with the three full computer kits.

Eksaath donated 3 PCs to a low income school in Mumbai. The school has some 835 children, with 50% girls. The PCs will be used in the school lab. Thanks to our donors, Dr R.W and Mrs Dr P.R.W (They wish to remain anonymous). Dr R.W got these PCs fixed and made it fully functional. And then bought new keyboards to go with each PC. Eksaath cannot him thank enough. If you wish to donate, please contact us.

Abuse and self destruction are linked..

If your parents have been mean to you (abusive) in any way when you were a kid, you will self destruct in adult hood. That is the way the cookie always crumbles.

Acknowledge the pain that you feel. Talk about it with your parents. Say – “You did this to me and it made me feel like crap”. If your parents acknowledge the wrong that they did to you, great. That’s the first step towards fixing your fucked up life. If they don’t. Acknowledge it to yourself. That what happened in your childhood did happen. And is still happening to you. And all your behaviour as adult is in response to perhaps what happened to you as a child.

There is a deep connection between the abuse that happens in ones childhood and the abuse one does to others or to oneself as an adult. The only way is to not rationalise it. To accept it as causation. Sometimes the effects of what one goes through as a kid, starts showing up decades later. Just like that.

To understand what one does now, one has to understand what happened to one, then. The past can be a great teacher. Don’t shove it under the carpet. Don’t hide from it. Acknowledge it. And perhaps then it will start letting you go and free you.

A CEO can abuse his wife too!

An Indian CEO was accused of abusing his wife for 10 years. And people re surprised. How can he do this?. Its not possible, its unbelievable etc.

Domestic violence is not carried out only by men in slums, or men drunk, or men unemployed, or this kind of a man or that kind of a man. A rich man is as capable of beating the crap out of his wife as a poor man is. And a woman with money and education and a great job, can also be in a domestic violence situation and choose to live with her violent husband.

Men and women in home wrecks don’t come with horns of their head. Majority lead double, triple lives with multiple personalities. Many abusive people are extremely nice, well respected and admired in society. And at home they are extremely abusive with their families. 

The lady who got abused by the CEO/abuser will have nightmares for next decade and even more unless he seeks therapy. It will be an uphill battle for her to come to terms with one of the most crucial self esteem breakers – how could i let him do this to me! This is one question that torments women more than anything and it becomes worse when you ask this question and you continue to take the violence.

For women who live in abusive situation, the most difficult step is to take that first step towards separation. To say enough. Its quite possible to be in love with your abuser and continue to love him or her. Who we fall in love with, we cannot help. But we can choose how we allow them to treat us.



Money Clinic with teachers

Eksaath Foundation did a Money Class with teachers. The session was aimed to help the women to understand their money issues better.

The session was conducted by Mr Ritesh Sheth of Tejas Consultancy. Tejas Consultancy is a 37 year old organisation that has helped lakhs of investors in financial management.

If you wish to hold a program at your school or college or company, please contact us.